I want to ask you a question, "Are you living the life you want to live?"
Everybody has their dream life. We all have that picture in our mind, of that life we want to live. My question to you is simple: are you currently living that life? Most people would say, No. Well, why? The answers are often somewhere close to:
-It seems impossible.
- It's too hard.
- It doesn't seem feasible.
- I don't have those kinds of opportunities.
- I don't have it in me.
- I don't have the necessary resources.
And the most common answer is:
- I don't know.
Very simply put, I DON'T KNOW why I am not living the life I want to! Now let me ask you another question: Have you actually tried achieving that life you want to live? Most people would say, YES.
I do it every day. That's what my job is for; or my education. These are the little steps I take every single day to reach my goal. Then let me ask you the same question a little differently:
Have you tried your hardest in achieving that life? Have you given your best? And most people fall silent. They can't answer it. They don't want to say No because they don't want to appear weak or sound like a loser. They don't say yes because deep inside they know it's a lie. They haven't tried their best.
Now let me ask you my final question: have you tried achieving your desired life as hard as you have tried getting girls?
If you think about it, the answer is NO!
Your dedication to get girls is phenomenal. You're messaging 10 different girls on Facebook, Twitter, WhatsApp, BBM, Instagram, SnapChat every single day. You don't give a crap about who they are, if they are in a relationship, if they would even want to talk to you! You're chatting with girls you haven't even seen. You don't even know if that's a girl, and you're investing all your time - days and nights - chatting with that person with a profile picture of Naomi Campbell. But notice the amount of hope you need in doing that. It's almost insane. There is no guarantee if any of those girls will ever date you. But you try every single day. You're getting rejected by girls you haven't even met. If 9 out of the 10 girls don't message you back, don't accept your friend request, you have already failed 90% in your task. But that doesn't discourage you. You keep on trying. Look at that amount of will inside of you.
Now just imagine for a second, if you saved all that time and put all that hope and will to work for yourself - not a hot girl, not the love of your life, not any girl, Just on yourself. Just imagine what you will accomplish! You know why most girls friend zone guys? They do it for emotional support. Whenever they have a problem in their lives, they need help, they need motivation, inspiration, and they call you. And you put your work aside, and invest all your time and energy in motivating her, solving her problems, reassuring her, and also sometimes even physically doing her work. And the moment she is happy, she goes to her boyfriend. Her boyfriend always comes first. But the moment she gets depressed and needs someone to help her with her work, she thinks of you. You're basically using all the positivity inside of you to make someone else become successful.
WHY AND FOR WHAT?
She is using you for emotional support, she doesn't even think about you when she doesn't need you. I personally know guys who spend hours chatting with random girls. - Guys who have been obsessed with some girl for years. - Guys who haven't been over their ex-girlfriends in years - Guys who have literally become drivers for girls just so they could spend some time with them. - Guys taking extreme pains to solve girls' problems in the hope that she would someday fall in love with them - Guys giving all their time in relationships and hardly thinking about their careers. - Guys painstakingly trying to fix girls who voluntarily seek destruction and constantly invite trouble in their own lives. And what are you getting in return?
NOTHING............
Let me tell you something, there's a 90% chance you are her time pass. And that's another reason why girls friendzone guys. When she is bored and her boyfriend's busy, she texts you to pass her time. And there are thousands of guys who volunteer willingly to become a time pass for girls. They have knowingly pushed themselves into that position where they are getting nothing, except for the pleasure of having a girl to chat with.
Is that really what your life is all about?
This grand gift of life with all its innumerable possibilities and opportunities, is that what you narrowed it down to? Chatting with some random girl? More than half of these girls are already dating someone. Why the hell are you even chatting with her in the first place? "Oh, I chat with her because she is my friend" Really? Do you also text with your male friends just as much as do with her?
Guys, brothers, you need to stop this. You need to stop this right now. No more excuses. No more bullshit. You have to stop throwing away your entire youth, your entire potential in chasing some random girl. If you are obsessed with some girl, get out of it right now. If you are obsessed with your ex, get out of it. If some chick calls you only when she needs you, and you know that too, SCREW HER. GET HER OUT OF YOUR LIFE RIGHT NOW!
You might ask, why?
Why should I do this? As if changing your entire life isn't enough! But I will still give you 4 reasons why.
4 reasons why you should stop chasing girls and put all that energy into changing your lives forever!
1. YOU DO IT FOR YOUR SELF-ESTEEM.
If you send random girls friend requests and messages, how do you ever find out why you got rejected? Do you know why she friendzoned you and never dated you while she got herself a new boyfriend? You will never know. But one thing that is definitely going to happen is all these rejections will have a serious impact on your self-esteem. An impact that you most certainly don't need, and don't deserve at all. Because the reasons behind why she rejected you are based on her opinion of you. They have got nothing to do with your reality. So protect your self-esteem. Don't hand it to some completely under-qualified person who would crush it because she would rather date a scumbag dependent on his daddy's money for cars, booze and parties. You don't need that unnecessary rejection in your life.
2. WHAT IS A GREATER FEELING THAN LOVE?
It's the feeling of achievement. Unlike love, the feeling of achievement is much better and is permanent. It will last till the day you die. On your deathbed, you may have regrets about love, but you will most definitely regret not doing what you wanted to do in your life when you had the chance.
3. MONEY
Because money gives you a better lifestyle, it gives you better options, and it gives you the freedom to do whatever you want! Forget your all these for a year or two or however long it takes to be successful. Become successful, and you will get everything.
Why? Because girls get attracted to successful guys. It's not a mystery.
4. AND THIS IS THE MOST IMPORTANT REASON
If you put all that energy into building yourself and change your entire life. Then you can also change the lives of people around you. Let me ask you something, when was the last time you spent your money on a girl? On dinners, movies, lunches, gifts, shopping, even recharging your phone so you could talk to her. Now when was the last time you spent any money on your mother? When was the last time you took your mother out to dinner, or lunch, or bought her a gift, or just recharged her phone? I want you to calculate all the money you think you might have spent on the girl you are with, doesn't matter if she is your girlfriend or not, and then compare it with how much money you have spent on your parents. Even if your parents are financially able. Stop investing your money on relationships that haven't even started, and relationships that are solely based on how much you can spend. With enough money, you can change the lives of people around you, the lives of your parents, your brother or sister, and especially of someone who needs financial assistance. Rather than buying a diamond necklace for a girl or clothes from Prada, you can pay for someone's education. You can change lives of people who really need your help.
And these are 4 really important reasons why you need to sit back for a moment, take some time out, and really calculate how much time and energy you have wasted on meaningless pursuits.
Second, you need to recognize that insane dedication with which you pursue those relationships every day, and shift that dedication from girls to self-betterment. Acknowledge that you have dreams, and there is nobody in life that is going to help you get there.
You are on your own!
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